We’ve all been in relationships where you thought things were going right and then without notice you got a bomb dropped on you that you’re being dumped. You’ve also been in situations where you thought you were prepared for a test or a presentation and ended up being more confident than you probably should have been. During these times you often feel let down by your emotions and even feel like they led you astray.
What Your Emotions Are Telling You
If you’re like most people, this fits you just fine. But listening to your emotions can have a lot of benefits – If you know what to listen for. For example, research has shown that emotional intelligence is a significant predictor of leadership effectiveness, success and job satisfaction. Not only that but it also a common trait of successful entrepreneurs. And people with higher emotional intelligence have been shown to have more stable relationships, better understanding of others and better understanding of themselves – just to name a few.
So even though you may not understand your emotions, there is a lot to learn from them. And increasing your emotional IQ may put you ahead of the pack at work and create more depth in your relationship. So here are some tips to help you build your emotional IQ.
Skills for Exercising Your Own Emotional Intelligence.
2) See a Counselor. I often try to steer away from this recommendation on my blog so that it doesn’t sound like I’m shamelessly promoting myself, but this is true. A counselor helps you calibrate your emotional compass so that you know when you’re just psyching yourself out or if you really need to listen to yourself. Additionally, a counselor helps you hold yourself accountable to your thoughts and emotions so you can know the difference between the two.
4) Empathize. Empathizing with what others must be going through is a great exercise in emotional intelligence. Instead of concentrating only on what’s your own head, try to see what others are thinking and feeling. You’ll not only gain valuable insight that will help you connect with others, but you’ll also a little about yourself and how well you know other people.
Feelings are an important part of the human experience. Our advanced mammalian brains are what put us at the top of the food chain. Using our advanced brains to gain insight into ourselves and into others can not only enhance our own lives but help us to connect with others and succeed in various life arenas.