No matter who you are or how long you’ve been with your partner, it’s always a good idea to make a keeping the excitement alive in your relationship. Of course, the longer you’ve been with your partner, the harder it can be to come up with new, original ideas for exciting date nights and romantic ideas. The best way to surprise your partner with something romantic and special is to think about what makes your partner unique. When you think of things your partner loves, how are those things just so him/her? Here are a few ideas to get you started.
Go Old School
Is your partner a total romantic? The type who loves old romance movies and wanted a big, glamorous wedding? For the romantic partner, make little statements of love and romance a regular part of your routine. Bring home rose bouquets on Tuesday nights. Surprise her with a new piece of jewelry on your next date. Send candy or flowers to her work for no reason. Even if your partner isn’t the traditional romantic type, he or she is bound to love these kinds of romantic gestures.
Recreate Your Wedding or First Date
This would be a great thing to do for a wedding anniversary, the anniversary of your engagement, or the anniversary of your first date. You could even combine all three if you were really feeling ambitious! Take your partner on a trip to visit all of the locations that have been significant for your relationship: the bridge where you had your first kiss, the restaurant where you proposed, etc. If you had a destination wedding and can’t easily revisit, recreate the look and feel of the wedding in your own home. Try and reimagine the decorations on a smaller scale and cook a meal that is similar to your wedding dinner. Get out your wedding vows and read them to each other or watch your old wedding videos. You should also make general date nights a mandatory and weekly event for your marriage when possible!
Take Some “Us” Time
One of the worst things you can do in a relationship is to forget to give yourselves time for just the two of you. If you find that you’re both too exhausted at the end of the work day to do couple-y things, it may help you to actually schedule in time where you will do things one on one. This may take some getting used to, but you will be glad you took the time and effort to spend time together once you realize the positive effects on your relationship.
It can be difficult to keep the sparks flying when you have kids, so scheduling mandatory date nights is especially important. Hire a sitter and try out a new restaurant, go to a concert, or go wine tasting. A little time away from the kids will help you rekindle the flame and remember why you are together in the first place!
It may be helpful for you to plan to do specific things together. For example, plan to go to a specific restaurant on Friday night. Plan to go for a picnic on Saturday and actually buy the ingredients for your picnic lunch in advance so you will be sure to actually do it. This may not be the kind of spontaneity that you would hope for in a relationship, but it’s a much better option than failing to do stuff together because you’re both too tired all the time!
If spontaneity is what you really want but it’s just not going to work with your partner, try to find a way to compromise. If you’d love to be able to just swing by in the middle of the day and take your partner out to lunch just for fun, instead try letting your partner know in advance that you would like to take him or her out to lunch on a specific day. This way, you will get to have a nice lunch together as a break from routine, but you won’t be disappointed when your partner is unable to get away in the middle of the work day without advanced notice.
Do New Things
Psychologists suggest that couples who try new things together are better able to recreate the brain chemistry of the early days of their romance. All the fun and excitement of breaking routine, trying something new, and maybe even trying something a bit scary will make you feel closer. So if you’ve had something you’ve been wanting to try like painting or rock climbing, tell your partner you’d like to take him or her on a date to try something new. Before you try the new activity, surprise them with their very own paintbrushes or rock climbing shoes to get them even more excited. It’s up to you if you think it’s better to keep the activity a surprise or give them some advanced warning, though most people probably wouldn’t be too thrilled about being pressured into something too scary!
If you can’t think of anything you’ve been wanting to try, pick something you’d never think you would enjoy and just give it a shot! If you’re doing it together, it’s bound to be fun.
Make Romance a Habit
The best long-term strategy for keeping your relationship interesting is to make romance into a long-term habit. So instead of trying something once and then dropping it, make sure you do something special for your partner every week, even if it’s something as small as doing a chore for them before they ask you to do it or picking up that new paperback they’ve been wanting to read. Just taking a little time and giving a little thought will work wonders for your relationship.