Let’s face it, as parents we’re not perfect. Just about every parent I talk to will agree that they’re not even close. As a result, we do things that just make no sense in retrospect. And a lot of times our kids bear the brunt of it. Like when we discipline them over something that we later realize wasn’t as big a deal as we made it out to be or when we realize later that we didn’t have all the information and disciplined them too harshly, etc. Sometimes we realize that why we disciplined our kids or the way we disciplined our kid didn’t make much sense.
As a kid, things don’t make much sense anyway and kids often just trust that what their parents doing is normal (despite how much the kids disagree with it). As a result, kinds don’t fully recognize when parents really actually are disciplining too harshly or disciplining when they don’t have all the information. So when a parent is able to approach their child and say sorry to them for erroneously disciplining them, it not only teaches the child better rules and boundaires, it helps the child to have trust in their parent that much more because they see that the parent is willing to eat humble pie if necessary in order to do what is right. As a result of this increased trust, next time the parent disciplines them the child will trust that the parent is disciplining them fairly and if not, the parent will make up for it.
There are so many more beneficial things that come when a parent knows how to apologize to their child. Like incresed love, more emotional attachment and increase in communication to name a few. So while it might be difficult to tell a child sorry, think of how much better of a disciplinarian you’re being and also think about how much better of a parent you’re being, too. Your child will greatly appreciate it and your relationship will grow immensely. All in the name of discipline. Who knew?