You’ve heard the adage that you can pick your friends but you can’t pick your family. And there are times when you wish you could have picked your family. Everyone has that annoying cousin or creepy uncle that they wish they didn’t have to see at family reunions. But it’s worse when it’s your in-laws. When it’s your in-laws, there’s always the potential of your spouse divorcing you because you don’t get along with them.
At no other time are difficulties with in-laws more pronounced than during the holidays. With all the stress, the parties and the planning there’s no shortage of interactions with in-laws you don’t like. It’s not wonder Clark Griswold had such a stressful Christmas vacation. And I’m sure of all of us have been is shoes a time or two, too.
So what can you do to get along with that Cousin Eddie you don’t really like or your in-laws who tell your attempt at putting up lights is as admirable as a washing machine? Here are a couple tips to get you through the holidays with your in-laws:
Tips To Get Along With Your In-Laws This Holiday Season
1) Follow Their Traditions. Every family has their unique traditions. Maybe they bring unique foods to parties or have their family get-togethers at a house that’s getting too small for everyone. Maybe they even play games that aren’t really fun unless you grew up with them. Whatever the traditions are, just go along with them. They’re only temporary and it’s better than causing a fuss for the short-time you’re going to be there. Besides, their traditions are important to them and it’s important to be respectful.
2) Have Fun With Others In The Same Position as You. You’re not the only one at the parties who thinks your in-laws traditions are silly. When you go the parties, try to find others who are in the same boat as you. You’ll have fun things to talk about and before you know it, you’ll have something to look forward to when you go to the parties in the future as well.
3) Don’t Try to Rock The Boat. When you’re doing things or going places you don’t like, it’s easy to be critical. You might even try to tell people what they could be doing differently. But as an in-law, this isn’t your place to tell others what to do in their family. Even if it would be helpful, it’s best just to keep your mouth shut. Remember, they’re not your rules and you only have to live by them a few hours a year.
Just because you have difficulties with your in-laws doesn’t mean it has to ruin your holidays. And it doesn’t mean that you’ll always have problems with them. Following these rules can help you make sure you avoid a Clark Griswold-style Christmas and you might even have some fun in the mean time.