Every couple goes through rough patches in their relationship. And unfortunately too many couples try to struggle through these rough patches on their own without trying marriage counseling. And a lot of couples never try marriage counseling because they’re just not it will work any better than what they can do for themselves. So they never realize all the many ways that marriage counseling can help heal and transform their marriage.
How do I Know if Marriage Counseling Will Work?
Everyone knows there are no guarantees in counseling. Even if you’ve done all your research and found a good marriage counselor there’s still no way of knowing whether it’s going to help your marriage or not. This makes a lot of couples nervous because they don’t want to spend the time, energy, and cost on something that’s not guaranteed to help. And for a lot of couples if their relationship is doomed anyway, they’d like to just get it over with and not drag it out further through marriage counseling.
Yes, Marriage Counseling Works!
It’s unfortunate that more couples don’t try marriage counseling because the simple truth is, yes it does work! Many couples who began marriage counseling doubtful and even suspicious often find it warm and healing. In marriage counseling the counselor helps couples discuss things they’ve normally only argued about. The counselor helps couples to stop reacting to each other in anger and actually try to connect with each other on deeper levels of understanding and appreciation. And when there’s a third party watching you, couples tend to behave and mind their manners more. This is perhaps one of the biggest ways marriage counseling helps because it ensures both parties are being polite to each other and actually talking. Not arguing. And when couples do fight or say hurtful things or get off topic the counselor is there to interrupt and re-focus back on important things.
Marriage counselors also have the education and knowledge of what makes successful couples. So on top of helping you discuss your difficulties without arguing about it or getting off topic they also know what things you should be talking about that will help you recreate romance, passion and friendship. They can guide you into these conversations and help these conversations go successfully.
Marriage Counselors also know what it takes to heal past damages. Even after they stop arguing and start getting along better, a lot of couples still feel hurt by past damages. This usually results in couples who get along better but are still distant, not as trusting and not as passionate for each other. Marriage counseling not only helps you get along better but helps you heal past wounds, too, so you can feel closer, connected and like a couple again.