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Lessons to Take With us After Quarantine

Lessons to Take With us After Quarantine

As I’ve been meeting with clients in my practice in Broomfield, Colorado during Covid-19 it’s been hard to miss the impact I’ve seen in my clients during this time. I don’t even have to ask about it because they’re the ones who usually bring it up. In fact, it seems like everywhere I go I hear about the impact social distancing is having on peoples’ physical, mental, and relational health. Coronavirus forced us as a collective, to slow down and to spend more time with our families and ourselves. As a result, social distancing may have brought old wounds to the surface that were ready to be healed. Unhealthy relationship dynamics may have became more apparent, causing you to reach out for the help you needed for some time. Whatever the outcome for you and your family, it is difficult to ignore the lessons that social distancing taught us. Let’s take some time to explore these lessons and consider those that we would like to take with us as life returns to (somewhat) normal.

Slow Down!

We live in a face-paced society that values productivity and career success over individual and relational wellness. In other words, coronavirus may have resulted in the vacation that you never asked for. External factors that you once placed your self worth in, including your career, earnings, and hobbies may have been stripped away from you. For instance, many of individuals I spoke to, reported experiencing an identity crisis of sorts. When distractions are eliminated, it can lead to a flood of emotions that have been building up over time.

What’s the lesson here? Continue to make space for solitude. Space and silence allows you to take an honest look at your well being and yourself. Are you showing up in the world according to your values? Are you putting time and energy into your relationships? What activities can you engage in to improve your quality of life? In conclusion, solitude can help point us in the direction of happiness and fulfillment.

Nurture your Relationships

Relationships don’t heal themselves! This is a truth that many of us don’t want to confront. I often hear the phrase “time is the best medicine”. I do not think this applies to relationships! Why? If an issues in a relationships is not addressed, it often causes emotions to build up and eventually a big blow-up or resentment. Therefore, for many of my clients, social distancing caused old unhealthy patterns to resurface.

What is the lesson here? Intentionality is key in relationships! Life gets busy. We get tired. There are distractions everywhere. However, if you keep minimizing or denying the issues in your relationship, it is likely that they will not be addressed until it is too late. So be intentional, make time, and be willing to be uncomfortable. All in all, research shows that healthy relationships are correlated with lower rates of anxiety and depression.

Flexibility = Resilience

The individuals I’ve seen struggle the most with social distancing are those who refuse to accept it as the new norm and try to “wait it out”. After making this observation, I decided to do some research. I stumbled upon a podcast discussing the correlation between resilience and flexibility. Flexibility can occur both in thoughts and actions. For example, you may have reframed social distancing as an opportunity to reconnect with friends and family that you previously lost touch with (thoughts). In addition, you used your extra time to engage in a new hobby or pursue additional training to accelerate your career (actions). What’s the lesson here? Open mindedness and considering unusual solutions can lead to reduced suffering in the midst of crisis.

Online counseling for betrayalAbout the Author:

Michaela Standhart is a Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate. She specializes in couples therapy, betrayal trauma, and works with adolescent as young as 12 years old. Michaela stays sane while practicing social distancing by reminding herself how happy her dog is.

How to Show Up for your Partner Beyond the Pandemic

How to Show Up for your Partner Beyond the Pandemic

Showing up for your partner during stressful times has the potential to increase intimacy and trust in your relationship. However in the midst of a pandemic, it is easy to do the opposite and let your emotions run the show. Showing up for your partner, means more then just being physically present. It also means… Continue Reading

Ways to Take Care of Yourself During Quarantine. And Why Your Mind Depends on It

Ways to Take Care of Yourself During Quarantine. And Why Your Mind Depends on It

During this current COVID-19 crisis, it is important to take care of ourselves physically.  Why? Because our mind and body are connected.  You might have noticed stress getting to you a bit more.  Or you might notice that you have a quicker temper since social distancing started.  It might even just feel like a total… Continue Reading

Self-Love: It’s More than You Think!

Self-Love: It’s More than You Think!

When I ask my clients what self-love means to them, they often respond with the words selfishness, arrogance, and self-absorption. With Valentine’s Day approaching, decided to take some time to define this term and give readers the opportunity to look honestly at themselves and their behaviors. Below are some suggestions for how you can start… Continue Reading

Be The BEST YOU That YOU Can Be – and Change Your Relationship!

Be The BEST YOU That YOU Can Be – and Change Your Relationship!

If you’ve been in couple’s therapy before, you’ve likely heard that if you change the way that you respond to your partner or how you approach conflict with your partner, then that changes the relationship. Well, that’s because any change is change. It’s easy to point the finger at other people, or your partner, to… Continue Reading

Coping with the Loss of Your Relationship

Coping with the Loss of Your Relationship

We have all experienced the loss of a cherished relationship at some point in our lives.  Maybe you are going through a loss right now.  Whether it be the loss of a friendship, an intimate partner, or even a close relationship with a family member, loss is painful.  The loss may leave you feeling empty,… Continue Reading

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