It is always unsettling to feel lost and unfocused in life. And unfortunately, at some point, everyone loses focus in their life and tends to feel overwhelmed as a result. If you are feeling lost in life, you are likely lacking focus and a sense of direction. Get your life focused and back in the direction that you desire with these 5 simple tips.
1. Clearly Identify What YOU Want
What do you want for YOUR life? At times, we lose focus in life when we put others’ priorities or desires before our own. Do you put yourself as your first priority? Or, do you put others before yourself? Now, you may be thinking, “isn’t it selfish to think of myself first?” The answer to that question is “no”. You need to know that you can depend on yourself. You need to know that you are taking care of yourself. You’ve likely heard it before, but, you can’t take care of someone else if you aren’t caring for yourself first.
So, to identify what YOU want in your life to work towards gaining focus, ask yourself what would bring happiness to yourself that you have control over. What would make you feel accomplished? And lastly, what do you need in your life to care for your mental, physical, spiritual, and relational health? Once you have answered these questions, you will start to have a clearer idea about what you want for your life to start gaining focus and direction.
2.Create A Plan For What You Want
Now that you have established what you want for your life, it’s time to set a plan to it! Oftentimes, we lose focus in life when we have too broad of goals and don’t actually map out how to get there. So, start breaking down your goals and what you want.
What would you need to see this month to show yourself that you are taking care of you and prioritizing what you want in life? What would you like to accomplish or see in your life in the next three months? What about the next six months? Furthermore, where do you want your life by next year? Breaking down your goals in this way can help you get a clearer idea as to what you want and at what point in your life you want to see certain accomplishments. Not only does this help you to create a plan, but it also helps keep you motivated and focused towards your goals.
3.Identify What Distracts Your Focus In Life
Now, in order to be successful in implementing a plan for what you want in life, you have to know what triggers or distracts your focus to begin with. What causes your life to become unfocused? Is this certain relationships in life? Is this being too focused on technology and social media? Or, do you lose focus because your thoughts and space in life are cluttered? Once you identify what distracts your focus in life, start fixing these aspects of your life!
If it’s certain relationships that are causing you to lose focus, start asking yourself if boundaries or space needs to be put on these relationships. If you are losing focus as a result of being too focused on technology or social media- limit your time on these! Start having time away from technology and social media to reset yourself. Lastly, if you are losing focus as a result of cluttered thoughts or space- start clearing these up! Practice meditation or mindfulness as a way of decluttering your thoughts and gaining focus to the present moment. Moreover, start making your space (home and work) in the way that you need to keep focus.
4. Make Time For YOU
This is essential! You have to make time for yourself in order to focus on the things that matter to you in life. Take an honest look at how you spend your time and energy. Where do you focus most of your attention? Is it towards the things that you identified in steps one and two? Or, are you spending most of your time elsewhere? Start making time for your goals and the things that matter to you! Look ahead at your schedule and plan time for yourself. Don’t put your goals on the back-burner.
5. Spend Time With People Who Positively Impact Your Life
It’s no surprise that if we spend time with people who are against our goals, it’s going to be more challenging to focus and keep direction in our goals. How’s your support network? Who do you tend to spend your time with and how do they support your goals in life? Evaluate who you spend your time with and ask honest questions to determine if they are the people who positively or negatively impact your life.
Start focusing your time and energy on the people who are going to be positive influences in your life. At the end of the day, we all need someone to turn to for support now and again and it’s best to establish these supports sooner rather than later.
Are you ready to have focus in your life? If you’re feeling lost or unfocused in life start applying these tips to regain focus and clarity for yourself. If you’re currently feeling focused, then key-in on which of the above tips you could enhance to keep momentum towards your goals.
About the Author
Amanda Cummins is a marriage counselor with The Marriage and Family Clinic. She focuses on working with couples in distress as well as families and children in transitions. As a Denver Native, Amanda enjoys hiking, yoga, and spending time with her family