New Year’s Resolutions for Couples

New Year’s Resolutions for Couples

It’s the time of year! A fresh start! A time for you to set new goals and refocus on how you can be the best version of yourself. When we think of New Year’s Resolutions, we often think about creating a gym routine, increasing our emergency fund, or improving our productivity at work. Imagine what… Continue Reading

How to Maintain Balance During the Holiday Season

How to Maintain Balance During the Holiday Season

A pattern that I have observed within my clients and myself is using the holidays as an excuse for overindulgence. However, behaviors such as overeating, binge drinking, excessive spending, and failing to maintain interpersonal boundaries can lead to us feeling fatigued and out of balance as we enter the new year. Here are some self-care… Continue Reading

Making Holiday Traditions for New Couples

Rituals and traditions are sometimes lost in our modern society. Lots of people think of them as ‘old fashioned’ or ‘out of date’. As a therapist, I think that rituals and traditions are important though. They help to ground us and sooth us when things are difficult. And when these rituals are shared together as… Continue Reading

Grown Up Christmas Date Ideas

Grown Up Christmas Date Ideas

When you were a child the holidays were a magical time. It was a time you had fun getting together with family, going shopping, and waking up Christmas morning excited for the surprises under the Christmas tree. But now that you’re an adult, getting together with family sounds stressful and going shopping for presents is… Continue Reading

Surviving the Holidays in a New Relationship

Surviving the Holidays in a New Relationship

Making it through holiday stress can be tough. Now throw on top of that being in a new relationship, it can get real dicey. You might be navigating introducing your partner to family members for the first time. It can be tough to balance family expectations without sacrificing your connection with your partner. So here… Continue Reading

How to Deal with Stonewalling in Your Marriage

How to Deal with Stonewalling in Your Marriage

Do you notice that you become easily overwhelmed during conflict? Is it common for you to withdraw emotionally or physically when conflict becomes escalated? Do you walk away, keep yourself busy, or even leave your home in order to avoid your partner when they are upset? If so, you may be with stonewalling. Stonewalling occurs… Continue Reading

We Have Intimacy Issues

We Have Intimacy Issues

I have found working with couples that when I hear “intimacy issues,” most of the time that means sex. Disconnection in the bedroom is very common in long-term relationships. One person wants sex more, the other wants it less. When you do have sex, it might feel robotic or mechanical. And it can feel isolating.… Continue Reading

We never fight. Now how do we become closer?

We never fight. Now how do we become closer?

One of the most common reasons couples come to see me for counseling is because they fight a lot. But perhaps the second most common reason couples come to see me is because they don’t fight at all. That’s right. Couples come to see me because they don’t fight. No, they don’t sit down on my… Continue Reading

I’m Too Busy in My Relationship

I’m Too Busy in My Relationship

A few weeks ago I wrote about dealing with relationship stress when your partner is busy. So what if you are the person who is too busy for their relationship? Maybe you have a high pressure job which requires long hours. Or it could be that your social calendar keeps you in motion all the… Continue Reading

Why Are We Drifting?

Why Are We Drifting?

Realizing that you are not as close to your partner as you used to be is scary. It is hard to even figure out how it started sometimes. But one day you just realize that it has been months since you went on a date, or had sex, or even just talked about your feelings.… Continue Reading