Everyone knows that marriage is a compromise. It makes sense, right? If you get everything you want in your marriage, it usually means that your spouse has to give up what they want. So as a good spouse you don’t want to be that selfish partner who makes too many demands. You want your spouse… Continue Reading
Loving someone who is addicted can feel like hell. It can be lonely and painful to watch the person that you love stay stuck in the same cycle with their substance. On top of that, the addiction starts to come between you. It causes fights that your partner does not even remember the next day.… Continue Reading
At some point, you have likely experienced spiraling thoughts. Spiraling thoughts tend to be when we are experiencing anxiety, having negative thoughts, ruminating on an idea/emotion, or have thoughts that lead us down a rabbit hole of “what-if” scenarios or worst case possibilities. Although these thoughts may initially surface to make us want to feel… Continue Reading
At some point or another, you have likely set a boundary, tried to set a boundary that was not respected, or have heard from someone that you should be setting boundaries. Boundaries are essential for your self-care, self-value, and overall health. As a therapist, I frequently see individuals and relationships struggle due to the lack… Continue Reading
In my experience, no one really has a good idea of what to expect when transitioning from being a couple to being a family. There are plenty of avenues to find parenting advice, but no one seems to really talk about the ways that it will potentially effect your relationship with your partner. There aren’t… Continue Reading
As a marriage counselor, unfortunately I see lots of times when marriages just don’t work. Despite all the time and work that people put into counseling, sometimes people just decide that they’d rather not be married and they’re better off going their separate ways. Sometimes it’s probably for the better. But other times there are… Continue Reading
Having a healthy, thriving relationship takes time, there is really no way around it. Finding balance is tricky. There are some commitments that just require a certain amount of time no matter what, think school, kids, career, etc. And somehow you have to find a way after all that to devote enough time to caring… Continue Reading
At the time I am writing, our local Pride parade was this past weekend. I was reflecting on the process a lot of our clients go through when coming out to family and friends. It can truly be a terrifying process. No one is given a clear road map for where they are going or… Continue Reading
If you’re in a romantic relationship, you have likely noticed that there are moments in which your connection physically and emotionally with your partner increases and decreases. This tends to be based on different periods or phases in your relationship. Although it is common for emotional and physical connection to fluctuate, there are things that… Continue Reading
Intimacy is important in relationships, and I am not just talking about sex. I am talking about the sense of emotional vulnerability and connection to your partner. But when our relationships are struggling, it can be hard to find that connection. You might not even fight often, but you feel yourself drifting apart. And when… Continue Reading