Your first anniversary is paper, second is cotton, third is leather, and the list goes on. While there might be specific gifts you’re supposed to give for every year you are married, celebrating your anniversary is much more than just that. Your anniversary is a special time to show your husband how much he means… Continue Reading
My clients often struggle to grasp how their desire to please others at the expense of themselves keeps them stuck. Many of these individuals grew up in families where it was unsafe to share their emotions or opinions. Others received the most love and praise when they were “helping” or “being a good kid”. Regardless… Continue Reading
What’s your story? If you’re reading this, it’s likely your story isn’t how you want to tell it. Since we were young, we’ve been led to believe in the Disney, happy-ever-after relationship. Anything short of that is unfulfilling. We think that good marriages mean feeling understood, important, cherished, and attractive, knowing how to talk to… Continue Reading
Despite humans being the most communicative species on the planet, our communication is often fraught with misunderstandings. You have experienced this in your relationship when you find yourself in an escalating argument with your partner that started with a question about what to eat for dinner. Sometimes it feels like these escalating arguments just keep… Continue Reading
Communicating needs and complaints with you partner early, can help protect against resentment. However, many of my clients struggle to bring up complaints in a way that their partner can hear and understand. Some “pick their battles” too carefully, because they are afraid that bringing up complaints will lead to conflict. Others are afraid to… Continue Reading
Families have the unparalleled ability to fight and forgive; make a scene, then makeup; and scream in your face before saying, “I love you.” But just because you can do these things doesn’t mean it’s good for anyone’s well-being. It’s important to focus on stress relief, physical health, and emotional wellness now more than ever—after… Continue Reading
Everyone experiences sexual fantasies. Some people even start to experience sexual fantasies before they even know what sex is. Fantasies can be a healthy part of a fulfilling sex life. But sometimes sexual fantasies can get in the way of our connection with our partner. Sex is about being present with another person. And sometimes,… Continue Reading
Betrayals in romantic partnerships are traumatic. They can leave you in a state of fear, constantly questioning your partner and doubting your own judgment. When a reminder of the betrayal triggers fear, it can lead to a spiral of worse case scenario thinking. This spiral is often followed by ineffective attempts to gain control of… Continue Reading
Finding alone time is important. But that can be really difficult in the age of social distancing where you work, relax, and hangout all in the same spot with your family or roommates. While some people are struggling with isolation, it can be hard to find time alone if you live with family or a significant other. So here are a… Continue Reading
As a couples counselor in Broomfield, Colorado I am beginning to hear a lot of couples say that they’re finally starting to find a new normal with all this covid-19 stuff. They’re starting to feel more comfortable with working at home. They’re seeing their kids start to get more comfortable being away from school and… Continue Reading