When I ask my clients what self-love means to them, they often respond with the words selfishness, arrogance, and self-absorption. With Valentine’s Day approaching, decided to take some time to define this term and give readers the opportunity to look honestly at themselves and their behaviors. Below are some suggestions for how you can start… Continue Reading
Our sex life changes over the years when we are in a long-term relationship. There is a natural eb and flow in our sex life. Maybe this has to do with a new job. Or it could be that you have just had your first kid. Life has ups and downs and it is normal to expect that your… Continue Reading
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a hundred times. No marriage is perfect. Every relationship goes through its ups and downs. When things are good, things are really good and you wish you could live in those moments forever. But when things are bad, they can be really bad. And sometimes they’re so… Continue Reading
Sometimes you just feel stuck. You’v have had the same fight with your partner a hundred times before, and it still goes nowhere. No one communicates their view effectively, you both get frustrated, and then you both say or do stuff you regret later. Sound familiar? I hope so, because these kinds of fights are… Continue Reading
Marriage has its ups and downs. Everybody says that. But there are times when your marriage doesn’t feel like it’s just in a down. It feels like you’re just not in love anymore. Whether that’s a cause or a result of being in a down spot in our marriage is still uncertain, but one thing… Continue Reading
New Year’s Resolutions can be a good way to set your focus on something that you have been letting go to the side. Most of the time you hear people talk about it in the context of eating healthier, or working out more. But the same idea can go for your relationship. A new year… Continue Reading
It’s the time of year! A fresh start! A time for you to set new goals and refocus on how you can be the best version of yourself. When we think of New Year’s Resolutions, we often think about creating a gym routine, increasing our emergency fund, or improving our productivity at work. Imagine what… Continue Reading
A pattern that I have observed within my clients and myself is using the holidays as an excuse for overindulgence. However, behaviors such as overeating, binge drinking, excessive spending, and failing to maintain interpersonal boundaries can lead to us feeling fatigued and out of balance as we enter the new year. Here are some self-care… Continue Reading
Rituals and traditions are sometimes lost in our modern society. Lots of people think of them as ‘old fashioned’ or ‘out of date’. As a therapist, I think that rituals and traditions are important though. They help to ground us and sooth us when things are difficult. And when these rituals are shared together as… Continue Reading
When you were a child the holidays were a magical time. It was a time you had fun getting together with family, going shopping, and waking up Christmas morning excited for the surprises under the Christmas tree. But now that you’re an adult, getting together with family sounds stressful and going shopping for presents is… Continue Reading