How NOT to Solve Your Marriage Problems

How NOT to Solve Your Marriage Problems

Sometimes you just feel stuck. You’v have had the same fight with your partner a hundred times before, and it still goes nowhere. No one communicates their view effectively, you both get frustrated, and then you both say or do stuff you regret later. Sound familiar? I hope so, because these kinds of fights are… Continue Reading

“I’m Not in Love” Is Not a Problem. Here’s Why

“I’m Not in Love” Is Not a Problem. Here’s Why

Marriage has its ups and downs. Everybody says that. But there are times when your marriage doesn’t feel like it’s just in a down. It feels like you’re just not in love anymore. Whether that’s a cause or a result of being in a down spot in our marriage is still uncertain, but one thing… Continue Reading

Try These Couples’ Goals for the New Year

Try These Couples’ Goals for the New Year

New Year’s Resolutions can be a good way to set your focus on something that you have been letting go to the side. Most of the time you hear people talk about it in the context of eating healthier, or working out more. But the same idea can go for your relationship. A new year… Continue Reading

New Year’s Resolutions for Couples

New Year’s Resolutions for Couples

It’s the time of year! A fresh start! A time for you to set new goals and refocus on how you can be the best version of yourself. When we think of New Year’s Resolutions, we often think about creating a gym routine, increasing our emergency fund, or improving our productivity at work. Imagine what… Continue Reading

How to Maintain Balance During the Holiday Season

How to Maintain Balance During the Holiday Season

A pattern that I have observed within my clients and myself is using the holidays as an excuse for overindulgence. However, behaviors such as overeating, binge drinking, excessive spending, and failing to maintain interpersonal boundaries can lead to us feeling fatigued and out of balance as we enter the new year. Here are some self-care… Continue Reading

Making Holiday Traditions for New Couples

Rituals and traditions are sometimes lost in our modern society. Lots of people think of them as ‘old fashioned’ or ‘out of date’. As a therapist, I think that rituals and traditions are important though. They help to ground us and sooth us when things are difficult. And when these rituals are shared together as… Continue Reading

Grown Up Christmas Date Ideas

Grown Up Christmas Date Ideas

When you were a child the holidays were a magical time. It was a time you had fun getting together with family, going shopping, and waking up Christmas morning excited for the surprises under the Christmas tree. But now that you’re an adult, getting together with family sounds stressful and going shopping for presents is… Continue Reading

Surviving the Holidays in a New Relationship

Surviving the Holidays in a New Relationship

Making it through holiday stress can be tough. Now throw on top of that being in a new relationship, it can get real dicey. You might be navigating introducing your partner to family members for the first time. It can be tough to balance family expectations without sacrificing your connection with your partner. So here… Continue Reading

How to Deal with Stonewalling in Your Marriage

How to Deal with Stonewalling in Your Marriage

Do you notice that you become easily overwhelmed during conflict? Is it common for you to withdraw emotionally or physically when conflict becomes escalated? Do you walk away, keep yourself busy, or even leave your home in order to avoid your partner when they are upset? If so, you may be with stonewalling. Stonewalling occurs… Continue Reading

We Have Intimacy Issues

We Have Intimacy Issues

I have found working with couples that when I hear “intimacy issues,” most of the time that means sex. Disconnection in the bedroom is very common in long-term relationships. One person wants sex more, the other wants it less. When you do have sex, it might feel robotic or mechanical. And it can feel isolating.… Continue Reading