Of all the difficulties I see in my clinic, the one thing that is perhaps the most difficult for couples to heal from is an affair. It shatters people in ways that are indescribable for people who have never been there. If you’re reading this, I’m saddened to think that you know that feeling all… Continue Reading
Your friends have said it, your favorite television show has said it, and your therapist has said it. To have a satisfying sex life, you need to be able to talk about it. Easier said than done! Even though you’ve heard it a hundred times there are a million barriers standing in the way of… Continue Reading
Let’s face it- holidays can be stressful! Although the holidays can be a joyful time of the year, it can be difficult to think about how to coordinate family get togethers, how to work through grief that the holidays trigger, how to not go into a financial bind, and the list goes on. You’ve likely… Continue Reading
While this time of year can be a great time for some, it can be pretty difficult for others. Spending time with family and endless holiday parties can be really exhausting – especially if you’re having problems in your marriage. The thought of trying to keep up appearances when you are struggling in your relationship… Continue Reading
During the holidays, overcoming grief can be extremely difficult. You may have lost a loved one during the holidays, or maybe the holidays remind you of the great times you had when they were around. It’s completely normal to feel like you coped with your grief in a healthy way, only to have those feelings of… Continue Reading
Everyone wants a way to unwind. Getting to work, fighting traffic, picking up the kids from school, finding time to make dinner, and trying to find time somewhere in all of that to spend with your significant other really adds up. Balancing the stresses of life can be very difficult. Add in the stress of… Continue Reading
If you’ve been in couple’s therapy before, you’ve likely heard that if you change the way that you respond to your partner or how you approach conflict with your partner, then that changes the relationship. Well, that’s because any change is change. It’s easy to point the finger at other people, or your partner, to… Continue Reading
You and your spouse are thinking about couples counseling and you find yourself thinking, what’s the point? Neither of you have felt happy in a long time. You don’t spend any time together outside of paying bills and taking care of the kids, and you can’t even remember the last time you’ve had enjoyable sex.… Continue Reading
Gratitude is an important daily practice for your own self-care and for your relationship! There are a million things for you to be upset about in your life. And, it is easy to focus on those things! When you put your focus on the negatives, it is natural for your life to fall along the… Continue Reading
I got this from a reader who gave me permission to share it on here. Her experience is a perfect example of how even the roughest patches in your relationship can turn out to be for good in the end. How My Husbands Affair Saved Us I still remember the day that Steve* (name changed)… Continue Reading