Communicating needs and complaints with you partner early, can help protect against resentment. However, many of my clients struggle to bring up complaints in a way that their partner can hear and understand. Some “pick their battles” too carefully, because they are afraid that bringing up complaints will lead to conflict. Others are afraid to… Continue Reading
Families have the unparalleled ability to fight and forgive; make a scene, then makeup; and scream in your face before saying, “I love you.” But just because you can do these things doesn’t mean it’s good for anyone’s well-being. It’s important to focus on stress relief, physical health, and emotional wellness now more than ever—after… Continue Reading
Everyone experiences sexual fantasies. Some people even start to experience sexual fantasies before they even know what sex is. Fantasies can be a healthy part of a fulfilling sex life. But sometimes sexual fantasies can get in the way of our connection with our partner. Sex is about being present with another person. And sometimes,… Continue Reading
Betrayals in romantic partnerships are traumatic. They can leave you in a state of fear, constantly questioning your partner and doubting your own judgment. When a reminder of the betrayal triggers fear, it can lead to a spiral of worse case scenario thinking. This spiral is often followed by ineffective attempts to gain control of… Continue Reading
Finding alone time is important. But that can be really difficult in the age of social distancing where you work, relax, and hangout all in the same spot with your family or roommates. While some people are struggling with isolation, it can be hard to find time alone if you live with family or a significant other. So here are a… Continue Reading
As a couples counselor in Broomfield, Colorado I am beginning to hear a lot of couples say that they’re finally starting to find a new normal with all this covid-19 stuff. They’re starting to feel more comfortable with working at home. They’re seeing their kids start to get more comfortable being away from school and… Continue Reading
As I’ve been meeting with clients in my practice in Broomfield, Colorado during Covid-19 it’s been hard to miss the impact I’ve seen in my clients during this time. I don’t even have to ask about it because they’re the ones who usually bring it up. In fact, it seems like everywhere I go I… Continue Reading
Being stuck at home can be a real romance killer for some couples. I have heard several couples talk about how they feel like they are struggling and feeling claustrophobic. Why is it that just being stuck together in the same spot can have such a negative effect on our relationship? It can even happen… Continue Reading
As a marriage counselor, I’m pretty much a professional hostile negotiator (ha ha). So when I see rioting going on in the streets like they did this weekend I’m saddened. I’m saddened because the solution is usually so easy. Most conflicts arise because one side (and there are usually many sides) doesn’t feel like their… Continue Reading
With the COVID crisis being what it is, a lot of people are under financial stress. You might have lost a job. Or maybe things have just slowed down enough that money is not coming in like usual. In any case, talking finances is hard to begin with. Talking with your partner about money can be… Continue Reading