Time and time again couples sit on my couch telling me about how bland and boring their marriage has become. They complain that they just don’t have any fun anymore. Even when they go on dates, it’s just not as romantic as it used to be. They’ll go out and do something together but don’t… Continue Reading
For better or worse, we all have a past. We have all been in relationships which have all been in relationships that leave us with hurts, pain, and baggage. Relationships have a way of shaping us and how we connect with each other. It makes sense that we can not just turn that off, but… Continue Reading
When you decided to get married, you had a lot of ideas in your head about what marriage would be like. And these ideas of what it was going to be like were mostly good. After all, if they weren’t good, you wouldn’t have got married. You probably had visions of fun date nights, living… Continue Reading
Ladies and gentlemen—context matters when you’re having sex! Let’s face it: we’ve all seen the stereotype of women in the media who were ‘too tired’ or ‘too stressed’ to have sex. But what if there was more to this? What if, in fact, when your female partner says something along the lines of ‘I’ve had… Continue Reading
There is plenty of dumb advice that floats around for couples who are struggling. Maybe it’s your Dr. Phil’s of the world or other self-help type guru’s. Or you might notice that every single one of your friends or family members has an opinion about the solution to your problems. The tricky thing about cliché… Continue Reading
While fall is the perfect season for football, friends, and foliage, it’s also a great time for family. School has begun so finding time to spend together can be challenging but it should be a priority. Curb your child’s cell phone obsession and get them outdoors … or at least off the couch! If you’re… Continue Reading
At some point or another, in your romantic relationship, you and your partner have likely discussed what you need from each other, desires in the relationship, or how you could improve communication. As a couple’s therapist, this shows up ALL the time. What I’ve found is that couple’s don’t always know how to be empathetically… Continue Reading
Everyone knows that marriage is a compromise. It makes sense, right? If you get everything you want in your marriage, it usually means that your spouse has to give up what they want. So as a good spouse you don’t want to be that selfish partner who makes too many demands. You want your spouse… Continue Reading
Loving someone who is addicted can feel like hell. It can be lonely and painful to watch the person that you love stay stuck in the same cycle with their substance. On top of that, the addiction starts to come between you. It causes fights that your partner does not even remember the next day.… Continue Reading
At some point, you have likely experienced spiraling thoughts. Spiraling thoughts tend to be when we are experiencing anxiety, having negative thoughts, ruminating on an idea/emotion, or have thoughts that lead us down a rabbit hole of “what-if” scenarios or worst case possibilities. Although these thoughts may initially surface to make us want to feel… Continue Reading