Everyone experiences sexual fantasies. Some people even start to experience sexual fantasies before they even know what sex is. Fantasies can be a healthy part of a fulfilling sex life. But sometimes sexual fantasies can get in the way of our connection with our partner. Sex is about being present with another person. And sometimes,… Continue Reading
Betrayals in romantic partnerships are traumatic. They can leave you in a state of fear, constantly questioning your partner and doubting your own judgment. When a reminder of the betrayal triggers fear, it can lead to a spiral of worse case scenario thinking. This spiral is often followed by ineffective attempts to gain control of… Continue Reading
Finding alone time is important. But that can be really difficult in the age of social distancing where you work, relax, and hangout all in the same spot with your family or roommates. While some people are struggling with isolation, it can be hard to find time alone if you live with family or a significant other. So here are a… Continue Reading
As a couples counselor in Broomfield, Colorado I am beginning to hear a lot of couples say that they’re finally starting to find a new normal with all this covid-19 stuff. They’re starting to feel more comfortable with working at home. They’re seeing their kids start to get more comfortable being away from school and… Continue Reading
As I’ve been meeting with clients in my practice in Broomfield, Colorado during Covid-19 it’s been hard to miss the impact I’ve seen in my clients during this time. I don’t even have to ask about it because they’re the ones who usually bring it up. In fact, it seems like everywhere I go I… Continue Reading
Being stuck at home can be a real romance killer for some couples. I have heard several couples talk about how they feel like they are struggling and feeling claustrophobic. Why is it that just being stuck together in the same spot can have such a negative effect on our relationship? It can even happen… Continue Reading
As a marriage counselor, I’m pretty much a professional hostile negotiator (ha ha). So when I see rioting going on in the streets like they did this weekend I’m saddened. I’m saddened because the solution is usually so easy. Most conflicts arise because one side (and there are usually many sides) doesn’t feel like their… Continue Reading
With the COVID crisis being what it is, a lot of people are under financial stress. You might have lost a job. Or maybe things have just slowed down enough that money is not coming in like usual. In any case, talking finances is hard to begin with. Talking with your partner about money can be… Continue Reading
Showing up for your partner during stressful times has the potential to increase intimacy and trust in your relationship. However in the midst of a pandemic, it is easy to do the opposite and let your emotions run the show. Showing up for your partner, means more then just being physically present. It also means… Continue Reading
With Covid-19 shutting down your gym, your favorite restaurant, and even your hair stylist, it’s pretty easy to get into a funk. All the things that you used to like to do you just can’t anymore. And you can’t go out with your friends, either. So you find yourself watching endless hours of Netflix, baking… Continue Reading