My wife and I have been married for 15 years. We have two children aged 10 and 8 who are the light of my life. I love to come home and see them and go out with them to get ice cream or go on bike rides, etc. I’m also pretty happy in my marriage. We care for each other. She’s a great support for our family. She loves me and we get along well. Sex is okay but it’s not bad, either. I have a great family and I feel blessed in so many ways. There’s only one problem. I’m not very happy. I can’t help but wonder what else there is life and if there isn’t something bigger and better out there for me.
Am I Going Through a Mid-Life Crisis?
My question is, am I going through a mid-life crisis? Why am I wondering if there’s something bigger and better when I already have something so good inside my own home? I’d really like to hear if there isn’t something I can do in order to be more content with what I have instead of looking somewhere else for something bigger and better
Dear Mid-Life Man.
Lots of people have heard of the term mid-life crisis. I actually don’t know where it came from. It’s not a
legitimate psychological condition. Most people use the term to describe a time in mid-life where people make drastic, life changing decisions that are starkly different from the life path they’ve been on. One of the most common stereotypes of a mid-life crisis is a man who leaves his wife and family for a young, hot blonde and a red hot sports car. But this is just a stereotype. Again, it’s not a legitimate psychological condition.
More accurately, what often happens is that a person will come to a place of a lot of transitions -like a child goes off to college, they get that big raise, have fulfilled a lot of life goals – and now don’t know what do with themselves. In other words, they’ve met a lot of their life goals and received the personal fulfillment from accomplishing these goals and now they know what to do next. So they’ll go out and do random new things trying to find other fulfilling things.
Don’t Believe the Mid-Life Crisis Stereotype
The stereotype of a man having a mid-life crisis who has a new sports car and gorgeous blonde to go with it is just a stereotype. If you’re having a “mid-life crisis” and are looking for new fulfilling and exciting things to do, you don’t have to leave your family to do it. Recognize that you’re in a place where you’re looking for something more and bring your family along with you. Imagine the look in your children’s eyes if you come home with a sports car. And instead of experiencing that with a random blonde, think of how much more rewarding it will be to share that experience with your children.
Ultimately, your life fulfillment is up to you. It’s not found in the things that surround you like cars or gorgeous blonde’s. So instead of looking outside to find your happiness, look inside yourself and inside your own home. Find new things that you like to do and share those experiences with the ones that you love. That will be more rewarding and more fulfilling than filling your life with things that come with price tags. And it will cost you a lot less, too.