The temperature has turned quite a bit in the last month! You probably noticed that it is much easier to prioritize quality time in the summer, spring, and fall months. In those seasons, the weather is bearable and there are all kinds of organized outdoor activities. During the winter months you start to spend more time indoors, lessen date nights, and shift your priorities. If your love language is “Quality Time”, then this means trouble! Don’t deplete your emotional bank account this winter – use these winter tips for quality time!
Find Activities You Enjoy
Although there seem to be more activities in the other seasons of the year, there are plenty of winter activities to choose from: ice skating, snowshoeing, skiing, and bonfires to name a few! Take a look at all of the possible activities and discuss them with your partner. Getting out of the house will help you to stay happy and active in your relationship. Decide which activities you will enjoy and make sure to dress warm for the occasion!
Make Time for Dates
Winter seems to be the month for excuses – it’s too cold outside; we don’t have a baby sitter; it’s too late. All of the everyday problems appear magnified in the cold weather. Be realistic – all of those same problems existed during every other time of the year and you will likely only be outside for just a few minutes on your date night. Make sure you remember to date! Have dinner at a nice restaurant, plan a staycation to a nearby mountain town, and/or relax and indulge in conversation every now and then. Don’t let excuses lead to a lack of effort in your relationship.
Remember The “Why”
The reason you are reading this article is to find ideas to prioritize quality time this season. Remember the “why” about your desire to spend quality time. You want to continue your emotional connection even during the colder months; you want to spend more time with your partner; and you don’t want to succumb to excuses or allow your relationship to fall to the wayside. Your “why” will help to guide you and motivate you during difficult times this season. Keep remembering why you want quality time and make your emotional bank account a priority.
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During the winter months, couples tend to spend less quality time. Make sure to find activities you enjoy and dress warm for the occasion. Reserve time for dates (even indoor dates). Don’t let excuses lead to a lack of effort towards your relationship. And always remember the “why” that goes with your desire to continue spending time with your partner.
About The Author
Chris Cummins is a couples specialist with The Marriage and Family Clinic. He focuses on working with substance abuse and couples in high conflict. Chris enjoys hiking, traveling, and spending time with his family.