When enough is enough

When enough is enough

You have known for a while that your relationship is suffering. Things are not as they used to be and the conflict is unbearable. You have been trying everything from your mother’s advice, magazine pro-tips and counselor’s suggestions with no real results. We all know that relationships change as we mature and we’re supposed to… Continue Reading

Nothing I Do is Good Enough For my Partner

Nothing I Do is Good Enough For my Partner

Relationships often start with plenty of demonstrations of affection and appreciation for one another. There is a sense of “this person gets me and accepts me for who I am”. The infatuation makes you want to attend to even the silliest requests from your partner. Then one day, seemingly out of the blue, your partners… Continue Reading

Does my therapist know if we will make it? 

Does my therapist know if we will make it? 

So, you are in couples therapy and you get the feeling that your therapist may know whether or not your relationship will make it. But.. they will not tell you. The therapist has seen your arguments and they know the troubles that led you to therapy. The therapist was trained to recognize signs of a… Continue Reading

He Said/She Said: How to Answer Questions About Being Single During the Holidays

He Said/She Said: How to Answer Questions About Being Single During the Holidays

Dear Aaron & Rachel, I’m single for the holidays and I don’t look forward to it. It’s been my choice to be single for a little over a year now so I’m used to being single and I’m actually pretty comfortable with it. But the holidays are always a little more difficult. People ask innocent… Continue Reading

We Have Sex… but No Intimacy

We Have Sex… but No Intimacy

  When I ask people about sex and intimacy the answer often reflects a belief that they are one and the same. We believe both to mean the act of sexual intercourse. It’s true that they go hand in hand within a healthy relationship, but they don’t need each other to exist. If you are in a relationship that has no intimacy it feels… Continue Reading